Most of us think we make choices because of who we are. We wake up in the morning and open the closet; we feel we decide what to wear. We open the refrigerator; we feel we decide what to eat. This seems sensible, but what “feels” right is not necessarily the truth. We are social creatures, and oftentimes context (rather than […]
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There’s Only One Way to Get Out of Your Bubble
“Anyway,” he said after making an insightful comment about people in a relationship with someone they met online. “That could also just be my traditionalist bubble.” When I heard someone excuse himself for his “bubble” for the millionth time, I’d had it. Do you really have to have been in a Tinder conversation with half […]
We Hardly Understand the Dynamics of Progress
Our intuition tells us that technology, social norms, movements, and ideas just move forward through time, as if progress is a river and those things are on a raft gliding through. That the passing of time is sufficient for advancements to occur. Well, it isn’t. The river of time has no current, and there’s no […]
Why You’re Not Taking Enough Risks
The third season of Malcolm Gladwell’s brilliant podcast has an episode titled Malcolm Gladwell’s 12 Rules for Life. Except, we find out a few minutes in, Gladwell doesn’t have 12 bites of wisdom to share, and he even feared he didn’t have any rules for living. Luckily (for both him and us), he changed his mind after talking to his mathematician friends Clifford Asness and Aaron […]
Why The World Doesn’t Want You to Succeed (and What to do About it)
Truth one: “Our days are filled with the path to future skills, tasks and commitments that we believe we can’t possibly take on. We’ve seduced ourselves into believing that we’re not born with the talent, or that the obstacles to doing the work are just too great.” —Seth Godin Truth two: “Attempting [to have a huge positive impact […]
The Dark Side of Changing Your Perspective
Neuroscientists can now identify how happiness and unhappiness are physically inscribed inside our skulls They even report the precise parts of the brain which generate positive and negative emotions. And also uncover more and more neural explanations for why particular deeds like singing and loving and following Maarten van Doorn on Medium seem to improve our mental well-being. […]
Our Real Job Is Fulfilling Our Potential
It’s always awkward when I tell people about my work schedule. On the one hand, some folks think trained monkeys work harder than I do. I tell them how a philosophy Ph.D. is hardly a full-time job for me because my mental state of being a zombie after four hours of deep work is a daily […]
Say “I Don’t Know” More Often
Most topics are ones where either we hardly know anything or where we think know so much that we are very confident. Funny thing: regardless of the topic of discussion— whether we are uninformed or knowledgeable on it — when someone asks for our view, most of us can’t resist the urge. Many of us, my past […]
Why I Hate to Talk About What I Do
When someone asks me how I’m doing, I’ll honestly reply “Excellent!” and after I’ve returned the question and you’ve also answered affirmatively, I’ll fire a follow-up, and another, and we’ll end up talking about you, and about non-personal stuff like the weather and politics. Then it’s goodbye. “Wow, you must be such a great listener […]
This Is Water: Overcoming Bias and How to Think Real Good
Once upon a time, there used to be a great and acrimonious debate in philosophy about whether people had “mental imagery” — whether or not people actually see a little picture of an elephant when they think about an elephant. Is “imagination” merely a way of speaking or a real phenomenon? Upon reading this, my intuition shouted: […]